New Year’s Resolution: Don’t Try – Artistic Colorado Wedding Photographer

In the busyness of the holiday season, I never really had time to sit down and reflect on my goals for the year. So, while everyone in the world posted their resolutions on social media, I kinda slowly walked backwards 😀

I knew it would come to me, I just needed a little time. And it did.

Don’t Try.

It sounds…weird. And apathetic. I know. But I promise it’s not – stick with me, please!

There was a book the blew up this year. You’ve probably heard of it: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*. After reading it, a few things stuck with me, the simplest and easiest of which was “Don’t Try.”

Mark Manson, the author, spends the first chapter describing the life of famous misanthrope, Charles Bukowski.

Bukowski did little but drink and philander while writing every day – with no success as a writer. I know, this still sounds grim, but I SWEAR it perks up!

Well one day, when he was in his 50’s, success came knocking. And now, Bukowski is famous worldwide for his poetry and fiction.

The words on his tombstone? “Don’t Try.”

According to Manson, trying doesn’t really do anything. Isn’t that true? In fact, the whole point of trying is that you’re not doing.

I think when you try, you distract from doing and being.

So, there it is. The least resolution-y resolution possibly ever! This year, I’m trying less. A LOT less. And doing SO much more.

Feeling stressed? Don’t try to change it! Just do something. Feeling super inspired? Don’t try at that either! Ready to take on the world? Do it! But don’t you dare try.

I should note, Star Wars fans will recognize this as a variation of Yoda’s advice: “Do or do not. There is no try.” I should also note I’m not a Star Wars fan – I’m sorry!!

Do you believe in New Years Resolutions? Did you make one this year?

4 Comments

  1. Abigail

    I’ve heard of that book and have been wanting to check it out!! This hits home on so many levels! We always try to keep up and we just need to “do you” more. Thank you for this amazing perspective. Great reminder!
    I did make personal and professional goals but nothing too high that’s unobtainable and I think that’s key!
    Happy New Year 🙂

  2. Jennifer M Outlaw

    What a perfect way to step into 2018! Doing is definitely a better way of thing thinking. I can’t wait to see all the wonderful things you DO this year.

  3. Elizabeth

    Hahah I LOVE this! I will try to not try this year too. I liked that book as well and had a lot of good advise. I love New Years Resolutions. I’m often killing it in January and then its a steady decline on the resolutions lol. But hey, new year, new you.

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